Self motivation is one of the 5 key components of emotional intelligence (EQ). It is the ability to work towards an immaterial goal, usually with no definite end. It also helps with depression and other mental health challenges. When we are self motivated, we get many benefits with it, such as increased confidence which affects all aspects of our lives. Developing emotional intelligence is a great way to build mental resilience.
How do we motivate ourselves?
We motivate ourselves by being mindful and disciplined. A mindfulness practice helps us to stay in the present moment and enjoy the process of whatever we are doing. It also helps us to recognize our needs and recognize our passions – what is truly fulfilling to us. When we focus on the things that we want out of life, it’s easier to be naturally motivated.
Remember to focus on the things you do want out of life and enjoy the process.
Discipline is also motivating when it comes from a place of self-love. For example maintaining a healthy diet or exercising regularly is a way to show ourselves self-love and these are both processes that are continuously ongoing. They don’t have a finite end. If you want to be healthy then we have to continue to exercise and eat healthy; we can’t just say “I’ve ran enough miles, I think I’m healthy” and be done with it forever. By being disciplined in our actions, we can be immersed in them and truly enjoy the process, rather than focused on the goal(s) or circumstances.
Self regulation, another component of emotional intelligence is also related to self-motivation. We have to regulate ourselves in order to be disciplined and present. We must be able to control our impulses and ultimately focus our attention on what is really fulfilling to us.
Practice, practice, practice!
Ultimately we must practice to train new habits. Practicing discipline or enjoying the process are habits to be practiced just like any other. If we want a strong mind, we have to train it. It may be difficult at first, but it gets easier with practice. Remember to focus on the things you do want out of life and enjoy the process. Think of everything as a learning experience. Also consider a continuous or immaterial goal. If that seems too abstract, think of something that you can work on that doesn’t have an end – it is ongoing.
